❣ Love
Vanilla ritual for a tender, healthy love
Vanilla is traditionally linked with sweetness and the warmth of home. In this ritual you write a letter to the love you want to live, without thinking of any particular person: you describe how you want to feel and how you want to treat whoever is by your side. It does not try to bind or persuade anyone; it helps you get clear on what you deserve.
In short: Vanilla is traditionally linked with sweetness and the warmth of home. You need 4 simple items and 6 steps. When: On a Friday evening, during a waxing moon, or whenever you feel ready to begin a new chapter in love.
When to do it
On a Friday evening, during a waxing moon, or whenever you feel ready to begin a new chapter in love.
What you need
- A vanilla pod or a few drops of vanilla extract
- A small white or pink candle in a stable holder
- A nice sheet of paper and a pen
- An envelope
Step by step
- Place the candle on a non-flammable surface, away from curtains and papers, and light it. Keep the vanilla beside you and breathe in its scent three times.
- Write a letter that begins “Dear love,”. Describe how you want to feel in a relationship (calm, laughing, truly listened to) and what you want to bring yourself.
- Add one line about what you no longer accept, for example: “I do not accept indifference or disrespect.”
- Run the vanilla pod along the edge of the paper or put a single drop of extract in one corner, then read the letter softly while looking at the flame.
- Fold the letter, put it in the envelope with the pod (if you used one) and say: “I open myself to a tender, healthy and mutual love.”
- Put out the candle with a snuffer and keep the envelope in the drawer where you keep your most treasured things.
Safety first
Never leave a lit candle unattended. Place it in a stable, heat-resistant holder away from curtains, paper, children and pets, and put it out with a snuffer.
These rituals are symbolic. Do not ingest herbs or oils, ventilate the room when burning incense or herbs, and never perform a ritual to harm or control anyone.
To finish
Reread the letter whenever you doubt what you deserve or before a first date. If you like, try the free love spread on cardaluna.com to reflect on where you are now.