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Moon ritual for a long-distance couple
When two people who love each other live far apart, the moon is one of the few things they can look at together from any city. Sailors, emigrants and students used to make the same promise: "at ten o'clock, look at the moon". This ritual revives that simple custom so the distance feels a little smaller: a fixed date, the same sky and a calm conversation to care for what you share.
In short: When two people who love each other live far apart, the moon is one of the few things they can look at together from any city. You need 5 simple items and 5 steps. When: On a night when the moon is visible for both of you, ideally during a waxing or full moon.
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When to do it
On a night when the moon is visible for both of you, ideally during a waxing or full moon. Agree on a time that suits you both beforehand, keeping any time difference in mind, and only do it if you both want to.
What you need
- A window, a balcony or a safe spot where you can see the moon
- A charged phone for a call or video call
- Warm clothes if it's cold
- A small piece of paper and a pen
- A hot drink each (optional)
Step by step
- At the agreed time, each of you goes to a window or balcony and you call each other. For the first minute don't talk: just look at the moon, knowing the other person is looking at it too.
- Take turns describing how the moon looks from where you are: its colour, any clouds, the sounds around you. It's a lovely way to stand in each other's place.
- Share one good moment and one hard moment from your day. Whoever is listening gives no advice and simply says "thank you for telling me".
- Each of you writes on the paper the date of your next reunion or, if you don't have one yet, a small plan you'll do together when you meet.
- Say goodbye by thanking the moon, and keep the paper in your wallet or by your bed until the day you see each other again.
Safety first
These rituals are symbolic. Do not ingest herbs or oils, ventilate the room when burning incense or herbs, and never perform a ritual to harm or control anyone.
To finish
Repeat the date once a month, for example every full moon, and it will become a little tradition of your own. If you go out on a balcony, don't lean over the railing, and if you go somewhere dark outdoors, take someone with you or tell someone where you are. To put your feelings into words, pair it with the love letter ritual.